Comments on: How Can We Make in-Laws to Use ASL in Front of Us and Our Baby? http://easysignlanguagelessons.com/how-can-we-make-in-laws-to-use-asl-in-front-of-us-and-our-baby/ Learn Sign Language Lessons Easily and FREE Tue, 05 Apr 2011 11:34:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: FINALLY having baby#2**due 12-21 http://easysignlanguagelessons.com/how-can-we-make-in-laws-to-use-asl-in-front-of-us-and-our-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-2487 FINALLY having baby#2**due 12-21 Fri, 19 Jun 2009 00:02:12 +0000 http://easysignlanguagelessons.com/how-can-we-make-in-laws-to-use-asl-in-front-of-us-and-our-baby/#comment-2487 ok...so....their son is deaf? which is your husband. I am a little confused of who is deaf. As for your daughter learning ASL that is GREAT! Do you teach her this because there is a deaf relative? or because you want her to know that and your native language? This is a tuffy! I would just speak up (you) and let them know "hey..we find it very rude for you not to speak in ASL when you know it , and we are here visiting you, i fyou can't talk to us, then I am afraid we will have to make our visits shorter, or not at all. Till you can respect us by using ASL' or something to that affect! I kinda know what your going through...but not really. When I was in labor with my daugter I had the NICU cheif DR telling me everything that could go wrong, because she had maconium. And one of the things were...she could be deaf, she could be blind, or she could die.. So I had to think about what I needed to do to get her out quickly and safely. But the whole thought of her being deaf made me start thinking about how I was going to have to get everyone in my family to learn ASL and to USE IT! I learned it in kindergarden, and I still remember a lot of it. NOW...there is NO WAY I could have a conversation with you...seeing how you use it fo ryour everyday language!! HA HA I am not that fast!! nor do I know the "slang words, or shorter movements" I guess You could call them!? lol Anyway..good luck! Sorry I couldn't have been any more help! P.S. My daughter ended up being ok...she did however scream when she came out, but they got everything out, and she is ok so far (she'll be 2 in March). EDIT:: ok...do they understand ALL ASL? or just the basics? maybe they are afraid to use it in front of you because they aren't that good at it!? If thats not the case, then I would simply sit on the computer tonight and type out a e-mail and send it to everyone. Letting them know how you feel, and that you are very uncomfortable with them not using the SL in front of you. And you feel you are being left out because you can not understand what they are saying, and it could be concidered quite rude. Especially if they are talking about you or your family. As for your daughter...do they talk to her? or use ASL? I would definatly write that letter/e-mail!! That is the best way to get your point accross. And if it offends anyone, then tell them...you don't HAVE to visit them! Visiting is a privledge! Not a priority! As for the kids learning....that is great they want to learn, and I would encourage you to help them learn so they can communicate with you, your husband and your daughter. Thumbs up to you! ok...so....their son is deaf? which is your husband. I am a little confused of who is deaf. As for your daughter learning ASL that is GREAT! Do you teach her this because there is a deaf relative? or because you want her to know that and your native language?
This is a tuffy! I would just speak up (you) and let them know "hey..we find it very rude for you not to speak in ASL when you know it , and we are here visiting you, i fyou can't talk to us, then I am afraid we will have to make our visits shorter, or not at all. Till you can respect us by using ASL' or something to that affect!
I kinda know what your going through...but not really. When I was in labor with my daugter I had the NICU cheif DR telling me everything that could go wrong, because she had maconium. And one of the things were...she could be deaf, she could be blind, or she could die.. So I had to think about what I needed to do to get her out quickly and safely. But the whole thought of her being deaf made me start thinking about how I was going to have to get everyone in my family to learn ASL and to USE IT! I learned it in kindergarden, and I still remember a lot of it. NOW...there is NO WAY I could have a conversation with you...seeing how you use it fo ryour everyday language!! HA HA I am not that fast!! nor do I know the "slang words, or shorter movements" I guess You could call them!? lol

Anyway..good luck! Sorry I couldn't have been any more help!
P.S.
My daughter ended up being ok...she did however scream when she came out, but they got everything out, and she is ok so far (she'll be 2 in March).

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ok...do they understand ALL ASL? or just the basics? maybe they are afraid to use it in front of you because they aren't that good at it!? If thats not the case, then I would simply sit on the computer tonight and type out a e-mail and send it to everyone. Letting them know how you feel, and that you are very uncomfortable with them not using the SL in front of you. And you feel you are being left out because you can not understand what they are saying, and it could be concidered quite rude. Especially if they are talking about you or your family. As for your daughter...do they talk to her? or use ASL? I would definatly write that letter/e-mail!! That is the best way to get your point accross. And if it offends anyone, then tell them...you don't HAVE to visit them! Visiting is a privledge! Not a priority! As for the kids learning....that is great they want to learn, and I would encourage you to help them learn so they can communicate with you, your husband and your daughter.
Thumbs up to you!

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